What are the signs that you’re an INFJ, or talking to one? The INFJ is one of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types. It is considered the world’s rarest personality as it accounts for only about 1-3% of the global population.
The INFJ stands for Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging. They’re one of the most misunderstood personality types as they’re often described as ‘mysterious’ or ‘mystics’. There is often an air of wonder around them that makes you question why they do what they do.
It’s often difficult to spot an INFJ because they’re very rare. What are the tell-tale signs that you’re an INFJ, or that someone is one?
Let’s find out, ladies and gentlemen.
20 Signs That You’re An INFJ
People say you’re very warm
One of the signs that you’re an INFJ is that you’re very warm and inviting. People find it easy to talk and relate to you. It’s super easy for strangers to sit down and relate their fears and secrets to an INFJ in less than no time.
If you realize that you have a special talent that makes people feel at ease when talking to you, you’re probably an INFJ. It’s a knack not everyone is blessed with.
Psychology excites you
You’re amazed by human behaviors and psychology. This is why INFJs often make the best psychologists or counselors. You feel excited when you can decipher people’s behaviors and responses to situations.
You love to know what makes people triggered, what excites them, and how best people can thrive in different circumstances or their coping mechanisms. In most cases, INFJs are very interested in concepts like enneagrams and personality types
You’re very empathetic
Because you want to know how everyone behaves, you’re often very empathetic towards them. You tend to take in everyone else’s feelings and emotions and put yourself in their shoes. It’s easy for you to see situations from different perspectives and align yourself with them.
Is being this empathetic entirely a good thing? Not really. This high level of empathy makes it easy for you to relate with others and counsel them. However, in most cases, you have no control over your own feelings. You wouldn’t know if you have your defined set of values or if you’re simply mirroring someone else’s
You’re often mistaken for an extrovert
It’s easy to assume that an INFJ is an extrovert because they’re socially malleable. They’re good at blending into any social function and moving with the wavelength. They can be the life of the party, bringing every other person to the dance floor, and screaming at the top of their voices.
Of course, this doesn’t last as introverts get socially exhausted pretty quickly. If you judge them by that night of “unintended extroversion”, you might assume that they’re extroverts.
You detest small talk
INFJs detest small talk with every fiber of their being. This is because they’re very curious people. They love spending their time on things that are truly important, or on peculiar behaviors.
When you come to them with small talk, they get upset because they see it as a waste of precious time.
Well, small talk isn’t entirely bad. Any introvert can learn how to make small talk with people which can eventually lead to deeper and more insightful conversations.
You’re a complex person
One of the signs that you’re an INFJ is to determine how deep your thoughts go. How far can you stretch them? If you tend to question everything layer by layer, then you’re most like an INFJ.
The typical INFJ is quite complex, or rather, they enjoy complexity. Impatient people can’t survive for long with an INFJ because they’d get tired. The INFJ looks for the deep and true meaning of every aspect of life, regardless of what people think or say.
You’re everyone’s go-to person
If you’re the person your friends talk to often or share their deepest secrets with, you’re most likely an INFJ. Your warm, empathetic nature makes you very appealing and relatable. It doesn’t matter how old they are compared to you. You can advise your siblings, friends, or even older family members, and they’d surprisingly take your advice above all else.
It’s sad, however, that INFJs hardly have anyone to talk to when they’re down.
It’s super easy to see others’ intentions
You see people for who they are, and that’s a very good thing. Your attention to detail makes you see people’s true character, even when everyone else is focused on the surface. They can easily detect when someone is being fake or insincere, long before they show physical signs.
When someone has a good heart, they’re also quick to note it even when everyone else says they’re bad.
They’re highly-achieving ass kissers
Don’t mind the caption. INFJs are ambitious people and high-achievers. They bear responsibilities with grace and finesse. If you come up with an idea, present it to an INFJ, and they buy it, they will pursue it to the very end as though it were theirs. They’re often perfectionists.
However, they get pretty depressed when they feel they’re not doing enough. It also happens when people they’re striving to please aren’t impressed with their work.
They cherish deep, lifelong relationships
INFJs cherish deep and long-lasting relationships. They often make good partners with their extroverted counterparts like the ENFJs, ENFPs, etc. However, it’s quite hard for them to find meaningful relationships. One of the common reasons is that they often feel that everyone is as deep-sighted as they are.
They feel very different from others
As mentioned earlier, the INFJ is the rarest personality type in the world. It’s often hard to find for them to find people that really know and understand them. This is why they often keep a very small circle of friends. It prevents them from being misunderstood by people frequently.
This feeling often affects their friendships, romantic relationships, and business partnerships.
They yearn for truth
The INFJ seeks truth and understanding. They don’t give a damn about the extravagant and elaborate covering over people’s lives. They only care about the true intentions of people. If you’re a chronic or habitual liar, or you’ve seen to be manipulative, the INFJ will spot you in a twinkle of an eye. They can go any length to understand people’s personalities.
They have a few friends
INFJs are known to have only a few friends, and that ‘few’ can mean one. In most cases, they will have several acquaintances whom they mingle with, but you wouldn’t hear them refer to them as friends. When they claim someone as their friend, they’re ready to go all out for that person, even when the distance becomes a stumbling block. Loyalty is their watchword.
You know how to decipher situations
People come to you for advice because you know how to decipher situations and know people’s true intentions. INFJs are often referred to as peacemakers. If you tell INFJs about a situation, they wouldn’t just jump to conclusions or assume something. They will check the facts and find out if they align.
They will analyze the situation carefully and give you their honest opinion.
You’re better with one-on-one conversations
If you see that you’re better and more efficient working and on your own than in a team, then you’re most likely an INFJ. When INFJs are in the midst of a lot of people, they find it very difficult to focus and be productive. This makes them very uncomfortable because they have to dabble in small talk for a long time.
INFJs prefer one-on-one conversations rather than talking to a large group of people. Their social battery can’t last them for long.
You know how to motivate people
One of the signs that you’re an INFJ is that you’re a good motivator. People come to INFJs when they’re at their lowest because they know that they will help them feel better. INFJs are great at motivating people. They encourage people to become the best version of themselves by praising their talents, skills, and good attributes.
When correcting, they do it in such a way that wouldn’t hurt your feelings or emotions.
Your convictions are strong
INFJs feel that the world is black or white, good or evil. They have very strong convictions about certain things that everything else has to align with us. INFJs have strong beliefs on how their marriage, career, friendships, etc. should go, so if these things don’t go the way they want, they will change without thinking twice.
They take their clothing style seriously
INFJs are very elegant and proper. Their fashion sense doesn’t follow the trend. They always choose clothing that is classic, timeless, and suits their body type. In most cases, they don’t buy expensive clothes. They wear minimalistic clothes that look good on them and groom themselves properly.
They have an unusual quirky sense of humor
One of the signs that you’re an INFJ is that you have an unusual sense of humor. They think deeply about things, so their sense of humor is unconventional. They respond quite well to puns and jokes.
Your first impression is rather intimidating
When INFJs meet other people for the first time, they give off this stern and intimidating look. They have the famous resting b*tch face even when they’re in a happy mood. This doesn’t mean that they’re bad or snobbish. Their minds are constantly evaluating situations and analyzing things.
