Introverts express their love in very subtle ways. If you’re dating or attracted to an introvert, it can be quite challenging to know whether they love you. The signs may be subtle and unconventional. Sometimes, it may even seem like the person isn’t even interested.
Introverts are not the easiest people to understand. It’s not easy for them to fall in love or care about someone. They are not the most expressive when it comes to their feelings. So, they tend to express their love in very light and subtle ways.
Also, introverts are very careful about letting people into their lives and baring their hearts out to them. So, expressing their love may take some time. They may not show their love in ways that extroverted partners would. How do you know your introverted partner likes you? In what ways do they express their love and show their feelings?
How do Introverts Express Their Love?
They become more open
Naturally, introverts love their privacy. They enjoy being in solitude and spending time alone. Their circle of friends is usually small. Introverts are very scared of opening up to people because they feel they might be betrayed. It’s even worse for introverts who have been in abusive or toxic relationships.
One of the first signs that an introvert has feelings for you is that they become more open. They begin to tell you about their secrets. If they are comfortable sharing their most embarrassing moments and the tiny details about their day, they find you attractive. Introverts express their love when they trust you and are comfortable sharing intricate parts of themselves with you.
Openness is one of the sure signs of love and attraction for introverts.
They become very vulnerable
Everyone shows their strong sides externally. They look like they have their lives all figured out, especially on social media. They post the great places they visit, the nice restaurants they go to, and the great activities they’re engaging in. But no one sees their depressed sides, or the times they’re at their lowest. There are days when they deal with imposter syndrome or anxiety.
Most introverts seem strong on the outside, especially because they seem mysterious. But deep down, they battle with several problems. There are times when they feel lonely, anxious, or afraid.
It’s very hard for them to open up to other people for fear of being judged or misinterpreted. So, if they share their fears with you or reach out to you when they’re at their lowest, they have a deep affection for you. They don’t have to spell it out.
They are excited to share their interests with you
This is part of becoming open. When an introvert like you, they become very comfortable with sharing their interests with you. You can be seeing each other for a couple of weeks, but you’d be surprised at how little you know about him/her. Once they start sharing their interests with you, they love you for sure.
Why is this important? Introverts find it hard to share personal details about their lives. They only share information with people who they deem important to them. Also, introverts have very weird and quirky interests. Most introverts find solace in gaming, playing Monopoly, reading mystery crime novels, writing poems, or spending time alone on activities.
Asking them about their interests is a great first-date question.
They invite you to be a part of their life
Introverts care about the tiny details. If they like you, they invite you to be a part of their daily life. They usually don’t let people into their space, so this is a big indicator. When an introvert likes you, he/she invites you to hang out in their home. They let you know where they hide their house key or even give you a spare.
This also works vice versa. When an introvert likes you, he/she also wants to be part of your life. They want to know your interests and partake in them. If you’re extroverted, they might try some activities with you even if it’s outside their comfort zone.
Spending quality time with you becomes a priority
Introverts are mostly very private people. They are not antisocial. In most cases, they just prefer being alone rather than surrounding themselves with so many people.
However, if they like you, they want to spend quality time with you. They’d not want to go to crowded spots, do PDA, or post you all over social media. In most cases, they’d want to spend quality time in a comfortable and quiet place.
Rather than thinking of expensive places to take an introvert out for a date, think more of indoor dates instead. They want to know the real you, so they’re not craving external attention or distractions. Introverts are more comfortable expressing themselves in private spaces. Let the Netflix and chill dates roll!
They want to know everything about you
Introverts generally don’t care about a lot of people. They’re indifferent to what happens to other people, even those that they know. One of the sure ways to know that an introvert likes you is he/she is very intentional about you. They want to know everything about you- your interests, your likes and dislikes, your taste in arts and music, etc.
Be free to share details about your life with them, even those little details that feel irrelevant. It’s one sure way of building intimacy between you and your partner. Introverts want to know everything about you that they can use to make you happy.
It may not even be a detail or fact about you. Be free to share your best or worst experiences with them. If they receive it well and want to know more, they’re definitely interested in you.
They’re very comfortable talking to you over the phone
Introverts have natural phone call anxiety. If you’re close to a lot of introverts, you’d realize that they pray for their call recipients to miss the call. They avoid answering their phones, by all means, necessary- except it’s an emergency. That is why you can see an introvert online on social media, but they aren’t taking their calls.
But when an introvert likes you, he/she defeats that anxiety and expresses their love by talking to you over the phone. They’ll willingly call you, and also receive your calls. These calls can go on for as long as possible, depending on your physical strength. Once you see an introvert going the extra mile for you in this regard, they’re subtly expressing their love for you.
They become more romantic
Introverts are more romantic than extroverts because they care about the details. They are often very intentional people. They don’t spend time with a lot of people or attend so many events, so they tend to go all-out for the one(s) they love.
Now, this may not be a likely indicator at the initial stages of the relationship. As mentioned earlier, introverts find it difficult to accept people into their space. They hardly trust or open up to people. This is why physical affection and romance may not be present initially.
However, once you maintain communication and sustain the chemistry, subtle signs of romance will begin to pop up. Romance is one of the ways introverts express their love.
When an introvert likes you, they’d send the most romantic messages. They’d send the most thoughtful gifts or take you to places you’ve always wanted to go.
They agree to go out with you more
Now, understand that introverts are not antisocial people. In most cases, introverts are very good leaders. Some of the world’s greatest leaders and innovators are often introverts. Being a leader involves communicating and effectively relating with people.
Yes, some of them may be shy. But there is a difference between introversion and shyness. Also, some introverts are simply battling with social anxiety. But if you see an introvert that is willing to fulfill certain social obligations with you, then the person likes you. What does this mean?
If an introvert agrees to go to a concert or an event, they care about you a lot. Most times, they’d rather be in their homes doing nothing than hanging out with people.
You become the first to know everything
Introverts express their love by making you their “go-to” person. We all have that one person (that is not our family member) in our lives that we call for everything. They’re usually the first person to know when something goes wrong.
He/she is the first person you call when you’re having a bad day and you want to feel better. When you have exciting news to share, they’re also the first you call. If they need answers or a recommendation for something, you call them first. When an introvert likes you, you become that person. The more they open up to you and allow you to be in their space, the more their love and affection for you grow.
They stop pretending around you
Introverts are often scared of public judgment. This is why they often stay in their spaces and prefer being alone. In most cases, they act the right way and do all the right things. They don’t want people to have the wrong perception of them.
When they like you, they let loose. They stop pretending around you and allow themselves to do the things they genuinely want. If they’ve been imagining something for a long time, they’d most likely say or do that thing in front of you. Once an introvert isn’t scared of saying or doing something in front of you, they like you.
They teach you non-sexual intimacy
Introverts are experts at non-sexual intimacy. They’re good at spicing up a relationship without sex. How do they do this? By reading his/her favorite book together or by having regular date nights or by watching the sky at night. They think of the best activities to do together to strengthen the bond you have with each other.
