Learning about enneagram types is not the end of the journey. There’s so much more that influences your enneagram. One such factor is your instinctual variant. In this case, we’ll consider the SO/SX instinctual variant.
If this is interesting to you, dive right in.
What Does SO/SX Mean?
In the enneagram, instinctual stacking is used to dive deeper into the subtypes. There are predominantly three instinctual variants. These are
- Self-Preservation (SP)
- Social (SO)
- Sexual (SX)
These variants can further be divided into 6. These six instincts are categorized based on their dominant and secondary spots. For example, SO/SX simply means that SO is the dominant instinctual variant and SP is the blind spot.
The six variants are
- SO/SP
- SO/SX
- SX/SP
- SX/SO
- SP/SX
- SP/SO
In other words, people with the SO/SX subtype are more likely to focus on the social subtype and neglect the self-preservation subtype.
This subtype is more outward and extroverted. They are constantly seeking to connect with people. While this is true, this does not make them talkative. This type can also be incredibly quiet in social interactions.
The connection to a person or thing makes them come alive. Because their second instinctual variant is sexual, they are very specific with whom they interact. Thus, connections to them are more than just an interaction. It’s the key to their survival.
If you’re friends with an SO/SX, know that getting to know you were a conscious act for them. SO/SX is more likely to be assertive.
Top Signs You Use the SO/SX Enneagram Subtype
1. You Seek Out Connections
SO/SX is all about connections. They want to connect with people on a deeper level. For this reason, this subtype is said to be the perfect example of one-to-one intimacy.
To them, meeting new people means much more. They take what is said more seriously and see it as a way to bond.
Connections make them come alive.
2. One-on-One Was Made For You
This follows the last point. One-on-one intimacy comes easily to you. You can make any interaction feel really personal. This draws people to you.
The truth is that your interactions are how you survive. Thus, perfecting the act was really not an option.
That’s your superpower.
3. The Group Infuses Confidence
Just like SO/SP, being in a group gives you confidence. You become stronger and feel more confident.
Most SO/SX feel more comfortable expressing themselves with a best friend. Because of their secondary instinct, they find ways to keep the group strong and in harmony.
As long as it stays intact, they also stay happy.
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4. Intense
SO/SX subtype can be very intense. They are intense with their connections. Because of their sexual instincts, connections are also intimate to them.
This intensity is evident in their daily life.
5. You Try To Go With the Flow
SO/SX might be intense, but this does not mean they are confrontational. They really want to flow with people. They’re a bit dramatic but usually have good vibes.
While this is true, this does not make them pushovers. When their values are pushed, they can and will assert their boundaries.
The level to which this applies depends on their enneagram type.
6. People Think You’re Charismatic
Being SO dominant means that you get along with lots of people. Thus, people might see you as likable or charismatic. This can be heightened further if you’re a type 7, 2, or 8.
Your confidence and charisma secure your interest in any group or friendship you find yourself.
Commonly Asked Questions About the SO/SX Enneagram Subtype
Have some questions about the SO/SX enneagram subtype? Here are some answers to questions commonly asked.
What are SX Blinds?
SX blinds refer to subtypes that have SX as their last stacking. SO/SP is an SX blind. These subtypes usually refer to SX as their blind spot.
The implication is that SX is the least developed and used by the individual. Their total focus remains on their first two instinctual stacking.
What is the SX Personality?
The SX personality refers to the sexual enneagram subtype. This subtype focuses on intimacy and control through intimacy.
They can be very assertive and influential in their circle.
What Are Some Fictional/Famous SX/SO Characters?
Some fictional SX/SO characters include
- Naruto Uzumaki
- Spongebob Square Pants
- Monkey Luffy
- Ariana Grande
- Taylor Swift
- Princess Diana
